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The Finish Line is in Sight!!!

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Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. ~Galatians 6:9

I feel weary; I feel very weary, but the one thing I can say is that the end is in sight, and I have survived! I can’t say I will be sprinting, or even jogging, across the finish line…more like crawling. But the finish line is in view, and I have made it! Don’t get me wrong, I wanted to quit at Week 1, and again at Week 3, and then again every week since then, but I have made it to the end!

Distance learning has been one of the hardest parenting challenges I have faced. Navigating distance learning with four kids, three who have unique learning needs, while trying to work from home has been extremely difficult. At least once a week I would ask my husband what he thought would happen if we just quit doing it. However, we kept putting one foot in front of the other, and now I can almost reach out and touch the finish line.

When I completed my half marathon earlier this month, it was a similar feeling. I don’t remember a lot about the last three miles because I was so exhausted that my brain didn’t seem to be working. It was 69% humidity when I started, and well into the 80s when I finished; the combination completely zapped my energy. However, my body seemed to be on autopilot, so I pushed through until the end. By the time I reached the finish line, my brain was foggy and my entire body hurt. I wish I could say I sprinted across the finish line, but that was not the case. I reached the finish line feeling like I had nothing left to give. I didn’t achieve the time goal I had set for myself and didn’t finish as strong as I had hoped, but I finished. A goal that I had for my entire adult life was achieved, and with that came a huge sense of accomplishment.

As I finished the half marathon and as we finish distance learning, I can’t say that I have “run the race to win” because in both cases, I have reached the finish line feeling like I have nothing left to give and like I barely made it. However, what I can say, is that I persevered and finished. I was tired. I was weary. And I wanted to quit so many times. But there is something to be said for perseverance.

Distance learning has been hard. Running my first half marathon was hard. Quarantine and social distancing have been hard. But in the midst of it, we have persevered, and there is something to be said for that. When we wanted to quit, we didn’t. We kept putting one foot in front of the other, and we survived. We are stronger than we realize, and we have now reached the finish line. Summer break is here, which means a break from juggling working from home and the kids’ school work. It means a chance to regroup and refocus and to plan fun, creative activities with the kids. The finish line is in sight, and even though, in many cases, it feels like we are crawling to the finish line, we have persevered, and if nothing else, we have finished.

The Death of Laughter

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A few days ago, I was once again going through the motions of the day: get up, have coffee with my husband before he leaves for work, get settled into working from home, and then help the kids with distance learning. The schedule seems to work well, but for some reason, it now feels like it is sucking the life out of me. I would compare it to Wesley on “The Princess Bride” when he is told, “I’ve just sucked one year of your life away.”

Distance learning is wearing on me. One of my children was assigned a major project that we worked on until almost 9:00 every night last week. In the midst of long hours of distance learning and the kids just not understanding their assignments, the thought hit me, “I miss laughing.”

The last few weeks have been long and difficult. The routine that seemed to work for our family, now felt mundane. Some teachers began lessening the distance-learning load, but others seemed to think the kids had finally gotten the hang of it so they began assigning more. I can’t help thinking that I would much rather be on vacation, or at the beach, or just walking aimlessly around a mall.

However, as I worked from home in the morning, helped with distance learning in the afternoon, made dinner, and then helped with a project all evening, I realized that as much as I tell people the importance of having fun, I haven’t been following my own advice.

There are so many cute ideas of activities for fun at home, like making an indoor fort or having a scavenger hunt. The problem is, that I only have one child who would enjoy these things. The other ones would probably secretly enjoy it, but as middle schoolers, anything Mom suggests seems to be a stupid, horrible, awful idea…so most of time, the energy it would take to try to convince the kids that it would be fun, just doesn’t seem worth it.

I still haven’t really figured out what middle schoolers enjoy. I am convinced that what they enjoy is aggrevating their parents, acting too cool for anything parents suggest, and finding friends who are just as annoying as them. Don’t get me wrong, I love my middle schoolers. Nothing gives me more joy then trying to act cool in an effort to annoy them. It gives me great satisfaction to hear them say, “Mom, just don’t.” I find their quirky way of trying to figure out how to transition from childhood into adulthood endearing.

However, when you are trying to find ways to make quarantine more enjoyable, the words, “Mom, just don’t” put a damper on efforts to lighten the mood. Small children are demanding, but entertaining them is so much easier. They would be ecstatic about a scavenger hunt or a creative play fort. I could tell them to make me “dinner” with their play food or to make something with play dough, and it would keep them entertained for hours. However, that is not where we are in life.

Instead, I have middle schoolers and a high schooler with challenging distance learning classes, and an elementary school student who seems to have more work than any of them. All of this has created an atmosphere where fun seems to have disappeared. Thus creating the present state of affairs, where laughter is a distant memory.

Don’t get me wrong, there are times when we laugh, but the joy and light-heartedness that we previously enjoyed seems to have vanished. In its place are long hours of distance learning, working home, and no social interaction.

They say they are lifting stay-at-home orders and curfews, but what does that even mean? Many people are still worried about spending time with others and most places of entertainment are still closed. I long to see my friends, to experience some type of normalcy, but it feels so unachievable, and last week the epiphany that laughter seems lost was a sad reminder that I need to find small ways to bring laughter back into our home. So…

For now, I think I am going to brainstorm and make a list of 20 ways to effectively annoy middle schoolers.

Weariness Comes Knocking

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As week five of quarantine draws to a close, only one word adequately describes my current state of being: weariness. Weary that I can’t go back to life as normal. Weary that I am having to balance my work and my kids school work.

Social distancing is beginning to take its toll. I can’t say I typically have a full social calendar, often opting for low-key family weekends rather than entertaining or joining large social gatherings, but I am starting to crave socialization. I miss seeing my siblings, spending time with my friends, and enjoying the warm hellos of coworkers.

The demand placed on parents across the country to become instant home school parents is also beginning to take its toll. Yes, teachers are creating the lessons, which at first appearances would make it seem easier, but now, unlike traditional home school, I am having to keep up with twenty-five different teachers’ expectations between my four kids. Each teacher has different requirements, different platforms they are using, and different expectations. Navigating these demands is anything but easy.

In my brain, I imagined that the third week of home school would get easier, that we would have settled into a manageable routine. However, some new challenge always seems to present itself. This week, we discovered that we had accidentally missed some important assignments last week. That definitely causes a set-back because we spent the beginning of the week playing catch-up. Going into this week, I thought it would be smooth-sailing, but that wasn’t our experience. This week was hard.

Fatigue. Weariness. I am bracing for social-distancing for the long-haul, but longing for life to return to normal. I bought a new hair dryer that doesn’t work well, but returning it means another trip to a store that is limiting the number of people allowed in. My recent online order arrived damaged, but exchanging it means going to the post office and being in close proximity to others. Is it better to engage in these activities or just make due? This seems to be the million dollar question.

I don’t want to expose my kids to the virus. I don’t want to get sick and be unable to help my kids or do my work. In addition, if my husband gets sick, he will have to use most of his time-off or take unpaid leave. These questions, precautions, worries, and fears are on so many minds. Not wanting to expose ourselves or our loved ones to the virus, but longing to get back into society and to our normal lives.

The lack of answers feels ominous. When will stores begin to reopen? How bad will the unemployment rate be when this is done? And how many stores will have to permanently close their doors?

Each of us has questions that swirl in the back of our minds. Maybe we don’t take time to listen to those thoughts each day, but they are there, adding little by little to the weariness and stress. I know life will return to normal at some point, but how soon is anyone’s guess.

In the meantime, it is important to find little moments of joy in each day. Watch the sunrise. Have morning coffee virtually with a friend. Take the chance to enjoy lunch with your kids…since they’re home from school anyways. Engage in a hobby or discover a new one. Inhale the fresh air while watching the sun sink in the distance.

We will get through this. It will pass. Life may look very different on the other side. The unknowns feel extremely daunting…but we will survive and will come out stronger. There are lessons we will learn in this season that we will cherish forever. History is unfolding before our very eyes and memories are being made. On the other side of this, we will view life through a new, fresh lens.

Embrace the present, plodding along, taking one step at a time, because when we don’t know what to do, we just need to keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Above all else, we must not lose hope. Hope will carry us through, even on the hardest days, and hope will ensure that tomorrow comes, and it allows us anticipate a brighter future.